இல்லறம் இனிக்க இனிய வழி

Illaram allathu nallarmandru. Brahamacharyam, Grahastharmam, Vanaprastha and Sanyasam are the four stages in life, as per learned, out of these four, Grahastrama is the best one. But today, how many couples lead a happy life, is it sweet ? It is the million dollar question. If illarams are sweet, why so many cases come to court for divorce and so many couples live separately.

It is very clear that couples can’t have same wave length, but one can adjust to the other and adopt give and take policy, then illaram will start to give sweet and innikkum in the long run.

LET US AGREE TO DISAGREE is the way to approach. Wife was born to somebody and brought up in a different style and school of thought and her expectations and dreams were different, similarly her husband’s attitude and style were different. Both are joined together after marriage. When they start running the family and the actuality is quite different from expectations, they get disappointed and frustrated and take a decision to live separately, which we see today.

In olden days, till the last stage, they used to live together thinking that marriages are made in heaven, but today it is like marriage is for convenience and this thinking is present widely and driven to broken marriages.

One of the couples went to court for seeking diverse and the judge, he agreed to grant diverse, but he said to the couple that, they are given one month time to think about the others good quality and start praising each others quality and if still unhappy, he said they would be given diverse. The couple agreed to and left.

As the days went, the husband started thinking about his wives good qualities on so many things like Big Bindhi in forehead, neat saree, well dressed, keeping jasmine flower for her koonthal, beauty, tasty food preparation etc, similarly she started thinking about him and realizing his good qualities like, coming home with flower daily, do not have bad qualities like gambling, well dressed, do not waste money on lavish things, showing love and affection to kids etc, both started thinking the better half’s good qualities and finally started feeling sorry for their about their bad decision. At last went to the judge and said that they want to live together, the judge was also happy for their reunion.

They realized that, by showing love and affection, give and take, sharing ones sorrows and joys with other, not to find fault small mistakes life can be so sweet and healthy and happy, the question of separation will never arise for the whole period